SETTING BOUNDARIES

As I Lovingly Set Boundaries in My Life,

 I Celebrate the Freedom to Give from the Deepest Part of My Soul

   I have always been a people pleaser going out of my way to make sure your needs we're taken care of before mine and even before my family's. Why?  Fear and insecurity...in myself. I did not have enough love and self-esteem in myself, of myself, to say "no".  I was fearful you might not like me, that I might not be accepted by you or my peers or even by strangers.
   As I complete my morning meditation from the Mentors Channel with Louie Schwartzberg and Dr. Pamela Peeke, I realize just how important setting boundaries actually is and how necessary they are for good health and balance as well.  Setting boundaries shows we value our time and our energy. Creating personal boundaries builds self-esteem, reduces stress and teaches people how to treat us.  When we honor what is most important to us we honor others as well.
   As children we are taught it is better to give than to receive.  Shouldn't we give to ourselves as well?  It is not necessary to see say "yes" to every request.  Saying "no" can be a loving gesture that insures a harmonious future in any relationship. Setting boundaries is simple when it is done with love, from the heart, with a desire to have honesty as the foundation of all our relationships.
   And it is important to protect our personal boundaries once they are set...and to be grateful for them. When we are grateful we alter the way our genes talk to the rest of our body. And the change in gene expression alters our destiny. When we practice the attitude of gratitude we check in with ourselves and go inward. We enhance our integrative thinking in our brain housing executive function and creativity.
   As I work on setting my personal boundaries today I set myself free. I am creating a sense of deep gratitude. Taking care of myself is the holy act of gratitude
   With that, I wish for you a mighty fine day and much aloha.  Respect yourself.  Love yourself.
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